Building Good Behaviors starts with good decisions
You got into martial arts training for a reason. Most have the idea in their head that this type of training is designed to help their students in one way or another. If that is you, then you will appreciate this article. Some have it in their head that martial arts training is something fun for their student to do and the moment it is not fun or convenient they go on their way. If this is you, then you may not find this article as interesting, but maybe, just maybe, it might help you with an important decision. Building good behaviors starts with good decisions! You did that but now it may be time for another one!
Good Behaviors & Discipline
Our education system, work ethic and personal responsibility needs help! We have the ability to be that help. Fact check me! The current school year exists because back many years ago families needed their kids at home to help run the farms and homes during the most productive time of the year…SUMMER! We, as a country, have been slow to adjust our practices to match the modern family dynamics. There is zero need to take months off during the summer today. However, I don’t see any movement in the system to adapt my opinion into reality.
Summers off means down time. Our kids just spent an entire school year learning how to learn. They then had varied success in the act of actual learning. Now we are at the end of the year and the reward is a couple months of forgetting what they learned. Don’t believe me, check how they test at the beginning of each year compared to the end of each year.
The summer allows for them to forget how to learn. No really, the ability to sit down and focus for extended periods of time. The ability to identify priorities and self-start in order to accomplish their required tasks! The ability to socialize while still demonstrating a clear understanding of the purpose of school being learning first then socializing. Acting like learning only happens seven or eight months out of the year sets them up to struggle where they do not need to.
Change Can and Will Happen!
How do we change this? With discipline! Martial arts training is designed to be year round. While our kids are off of school they continue with martial arts training and in turn NEVER forget how to learn! They never forget how to persevere. Wouldn’t it be nice if they never forget how to build good behaviors! They stay on the learning mind set and the result is proven over and over again!
Remaining focused on the discipline aspect of martial arts will not detract from the “free time” or “Play time” of your students. In fact, with discipline those fun moments don’t get ruined by otherwise avoidable bad decisions. Good discipline practice year round makes for good decisions and better FUN year round!
Building Good Behaviors & Commitment
Martial arts training is intended to be just as important as any other activity you use to help develop stronger future leaders. Of course, that is what we intend, but not reality. School grades should always come first! If you are a religious person it is highly unlikely that martial arts would ever be as important to you as that practice. Maybe you really love water polo and nothing else in the world can compare! No matter what is important to you, martial arts training can make it better. Giving martial arts training a place in your life that is not replaceable by other activities but rather a supplement to those activities, is a sure fire way to help see your student excel.
Being stronger than your strongest excuse! Read that again! Teaching our students how to commit to a goal and stay committed is HUGE! If everyone believed this, no-one would ever quit the one training they have tried that clearly and obviously prepares them for every other aspect of life’s challenges. But quit they do! Worse yet, they don’t see their reasons as excuses. Of course there are reasons that are totally legitimate. But when deciding on commitment consider if you are truly activity hopping or using convenience as an excuse. Only you know the answer and only your answer counts.
Building Good Behaviors & Confidence
When is the last time you asked your student what they learned in school? Did they have a rewarding and engaging answer? When I ask my family what they learned in school I have found that the more they understand the more they feel comfortable sharing. The better they feel the more confident they are. The more confident they are the more they share. The more they share the more we can determine what makes them tick and help the grow even more!
This is the exact same thing in martial arts training. The more they develop the more their confidence grows. The difference between asking what you learned in martial arts class today versus what you learned in sixth grade today, we insist on an answer. We then listen to the response and work to create an environment to produce better answers as time goes on. As we focus on letting them hear their own voices talk about what they are learning they shine brighter! Martial arts training develops good behaviors, supported with constantly developing stronger confidence! Identifying the weaknesses and not hiding from them is also important. Once an weakness is identified we assist the student in finding a positive approach to fixing it. As effort is put forth we praise and remind them of where they started. This type of development of confidence is not typically found in any other activity. This is what I call the Martial Arts Advantage!